Depending on your situation this could either be awesome...or scary.
For me it was scary, and not just for me. I literally came in, handed him the card saying how far along I was thought to be was, and went to the potty to hide out...and to pee. As I was walking out of there, having lost patience in waiting for the dots to connect, he came into the closet and look completely confused. Can you blame him? Of course, I told him I was pregnant and went on this rant about how I could do this on my own if he didn't want it and how I was keeping it no matter what he said. Turns out my speech wasn't even necessary. It ended up with me in tears, him trying to cheer me up, and the real beginning of my journey.
Moral? Keep your calm ladies! He could respond better than you thought. No need to get all crazy and upset. Give him sometime to think about it. If he's not excited give him some time to let it set in. He's not carrying it. (That doesn't give him excuse not to try to get into the swing of things though). Of course if he's not at all into it, this could be unsettling and hard to stomach. Of course he may still change his mind and come around. Just try to involve him and make him feel as close as possible to the baby. Watching you grow tends to give the baby a more physical presence. Watching/Feeling the baby move from one side or the other, kick, or get the hiccups is good for a laugh and bonding! If he makes a weird face or is shocked just take it in jest and giggle. He means no harm.
If he still isn't feelin it, then it's his loss and don't stress yourself trying to make him feel something. It'll end up bad. Don't force him just encourage...he'll take interest at his own pace. Remember slow and steady wins the race. Trust me!
If you you start to get scared or nervous, don't think that just because he isn't big into it you can't go to him. Something made you like this guy. Maybe he won't tell you everything you need to hear, but I'm sure he'll tell you something. Be nice, even if he doesn't get it. He will never fully understand what it's like to be pregnant, so 9 times out of 10 hes pulling at straws with trying to tell you what to do or make you feel better. Give the man a break for effort. Don't rip his head off his shoulders!
If you're no longer with this guy or he doesn't want to be in the babies life, I'm sure you have a good friend that can help you instead. If they're really a good friend they'll be there for you!
Either way, don't let it get you down. Keep your hype! Stay proud! There's no way to grasp what he's feeling, just like he can't grasp what you're feeling. So you're both starting off at a bit of a loss.
Stay Strong my ladies! He'll come around!
---MaMaBite---
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