Tips...

For when you feel 20 degrees hotter than the surface of the sun...

Take 2 rags and soak them in cold water. Then place one at the lower half of your back and the other on the back of your neck. Lay down and relax. The cool water should help.

If it's summer time while you're pregnant always bring a cold wet rag with you. You can put a little ice in it if you'd like. But wipe yourself down with it every now and then when your feeling especially hot.

And of course, lots and LOTS of refreshing water!

Lets tell Mr. Man

Depending on your situation this could either be awesome...or scary.

For me it was scary, and not just for me. I literally came in, handed him the card saying how far along I was thought to be was, and went to the potty to hide out...and to pee. As I was walking out of there, having lost patience in waiting for the dots to connect, he came into the closet and look completely confused. Can you blame him? Of course, I told him I was pregnant and went on this rant about how I could do this on my own if he didn't want it and how I was keeping it no matter what he said. Turns out my speech wasn't even necessary. It ended up with me in tears, him trying to cheer me up, and the real beginning of my journey. 

Moral? Keep your calm ladies! He could respond better than you thought. No need to get all crazy and upset. Give him sometime to think about it. If he's not excited give him some time to let it set in. He's not carrying it. (That doesn't give him excuse not to try to get into the swing of things though). Of course if he's not at all into it, this could be unsettling and hard to stomach. Of course he may still change his mind and come around. Just try to involve him and make him feel as close as possible to the baby. Watching you grow tends to give the baby a more physical presence. Watching/Feeling the baby move from one side or the other, kick, or get the hiccups is good for a laugh and bonding! If he makes a weird face or is shocked just take it in jest and giggle. He means no harm.

 If he still isn't feelin it, then it's his loss and don't stress yourself trying to make him feel something. It'll end up bad. Don't force him just encourage...he'll take interest at his own pace. Remember slow and steady wins the race. Trust me!

If you you start to get scared or nervous, don't think that just because he isn't big into it you can't go to him. Something made you like this guy. Maybe he won't tell you everything you need to hear, but I'm sure he'll tell you something. Be nice, even if he doesn't get it. He will never fully understand what it's like to be pregnant, so 9 times out of 10 hes pulling at straws with trying to tell you what to do or make you feel better. Give the man a break for effort. Don't rip his head off his shoulders! 

If you're no longer with this guy or he doesn't want to be in the babies life, I'm sure you have a good friend that can help you instead. If they're really a good friend they'll be there for you!

Either way, don't let it get you down. Keep your hype! Stay proud! There's no way to grasp what he's feeling, just like he can't grasp what you're feeling. So you're both starting off at a bit of a loss. 

Stay Strong my ladies! He'll come around!

---MaMaBite---

So you're having a baby...

Hello there to the wonderful world of expecting mothers!

When people ask me "Are you excited" I'm just like the rest of you quick to smile, say yes and rub my belly. Never thinking twice to add that I'm also scared, worried, and probably losing my mind in the process. 

Who wants to hear that?

No one...

But we all feel it. And we feel it just about as hard as the little kicks that come with our growing little ones. Let me just tell you now...it's perfectly normal. I know your doctor probably told you that too, or that you would get used to the idea, but it's always easier to hear it from someone going through it and not someone who only read books on it, or it's their job to tell you so. Sometimes the person going through it with you is your best friend for the next 9 months.

When I first found out I was pregnant I went to the doctors thinking I was gaining weight because I had gotten diabetes. Now that I look back on hindsight, I should have thought that out a little better. Either way my doctor, who had recently just had a baby, came in toke a little drop and blood, politely asks if she can screen me to see if I'm pregnant, and goes on about her job leaving me to ponder the 10 pounds that I had gained. Low and behold she comes back in with THAT look on her face. The one that says "this could be worse than you thought." Immediately I'm thinking 'welp no more cupcakes for me, hellllooo insulin!' So you can understand my utter confusion when she lead the conversation in with "Well you don't have diabetes" and ended it with "but you are pregnant." said in one breath as though I might explode. I sat in shock for what felt like a good 20 minutes, but was probably only 30 seconds, mouth all open eyes all wide. She gave me a second to collect myself, asked the necessary questions, and told me all would be fine and she'd be right back. Then came the tears, and the hurried text to my best friend. No more than 3 seconds later she was calling me. Her first words weren't 'so what are you gonna do?' or 'Are you gonna have it?' It was a happy and giggling "Are you serious?" When I told her dead ass, she told me "Congrats! I can't wait! You're gonna be a great mom!!!" and the tears stopped. The fact that someone, other than my mom of course, thought that I could do this and had so much faith within the 5 mins that I knew, told me everything I needed to know. 

I was gonna be someones mommy, and I was happy about it!

I think I might have given my mother a heart attack though when I made it out to the car, smile on my face, and new found joy in my heart. I handed her the prescription for prenatal pills, my contact sheet for a OBGYN and the card that told me just how far along I was thought to be. She kinda just stared at them all, then at me. Then I announced "You're gonna be a grandma!" Ever since I haven't gotten to to stop baby talking my belly! I love my mom.

At that moment I thought 'I may be pregnant but no one ever complains about it so it can't be that bad, right?' Now I'm not saying being pregnant is bad but it sure as hell isn't what people and movies make you believe, they only got the basic. "Oh you might have a little morning sickness and your feet might swell a little but you'll be fine!" If you're looking for a blog that will tell you that, you might want to keep looking because I'm gonna tell you the truth of what might happen. Not just my stories, but the stories of people I know who, now that I'm expecting, have told me the real deal. 

Through out my blog I will share with you the ups, the downs, those middle moments when your not quite sure what to feel and my own thoughts on the matter. Also I may include a few tips from my mommy and other mommies alike. The name of the blog is simply to make you laugh. I do not find pregnancy to be a horrible thing, or some big laughing matter. I find it to be wonderful even if exhausting. Which I will tell you now it is! But it's gonna be worth it ladies...hang in there! Even if you have no one else, I can promise you...you have me.

It's Baby Time Ladies!